Make Small Talk

Quick Win

Deep talks are satisfying, but quick chats can be meaningful, too. They can add up to a greater sense of connection and community.

Try This Today

• Slow down. Take time to exchange pleasantries with a cashier, barista or neighbor instead of rushing through an interaction.
• Be inquisitive. Asking questions shows people you’re interested in them. A simple, “How are you doing today?” is a good start. Or remark on someone’s stylish glasses, singing voice or smile. Flattery makes great inroads!
• Follow up. If someone you talk with mentions an ailing relative, a class she’s taking or an upcoming trip, ask about it the next time you see each other.  

Why

It’s no secret that maintaining close bonds with friends and family supports good health. But small talk with strangers or time spent with acquaintances — considered “weak ties” — may be a source of strength, too. Research has linked these everyday social interactions with well-being, including a 2020 report in The Journals of Gerontology: Series B. In that study of more than 800 people over age 40, those who had a higher number of weak ties expressed better emotional health than those with a higher number of close ties. Having frequent contact with acquaintances may help protect against cognitive decline, according to a study of more than 5,000 older adults in China reported in Innovation in Aging in 2018.